Monday, October 6, 2008

Like a 3rd Arm

Someone asked me this past week if I had always planned on having children. The question made me pause - I think in the back of my mind, I always wanted kids, but in my early 20's, it was impossible to imagine myself as a mother.
Later that same week, someone else commented that my life must have really changed since having a child. Now *that* rocked me.
You see, I can't even really remember what my life was like before Kicker. I know he's only 8 months old, but he's so much a part of me, it's impossible to imagine myself *not* as a mother.
I can't take off to Europe for an extended weekend, like some friends. I can't just up and go out to the movies, or to a party. Heck, I can't even go and get a haircut without some prior arranging. And I'm perfectly fine with that (though, I do want anyone who goes to Europe to bring me back chocolate, please).
So, my life did change. I'm sure of it. I'm guessing it changed so slowly, over those 9 months of pregnancy, that by the time I actually was a mother, I didn't even notice my old life was gone, or if I had, I certainly didn't miss it. After all, I got this.


Busymama Kellie said...

I hear you! I can't imagine life without the kids now even though when I was younger I couldn't imagine life WITH kids. When did that happen? :)

Cindy H said...

Hey, I found you through Entrecard. What a great post! I know exactly what you mean about not being able to remember the life pre-kids. Things are so much nicer now. :)

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Dakotapam said...

Isn't that true, they change you so much that they are so much a part of you that you hurt when they hurt! Welcome to mamahood!

Jen said...

yea, me & dh always say we can't remember what we did before kids. I can't imagine not having them!

Heidi said...

Well said. They are precious and totally erase life before them.